Body Shaming - Shame for the society

Why did God make some people fair and some less fair? Some people tall and some short? Some fat and some slim? Some with straight and some curly hair? Any idea?

Well, let me tell you!

It is, so that some people can body shame the others! Yes. Its our birth right to body shame! If people around you dont, you start it yourselves!

Ask any little girl in our country, what is the definition of beauty for them? It will be golden hair, white skin and slim tall body with a Cinderella gown!! Seriously? Guys do we want our kids to grow up with this definition of beauty? If not, stop stereotyping beauty with physical parameters.

No doubt, its important to be fit and take care of your body for a healthy and happy life. But lets confine ourselves to JUST our bodies. Festivals and get togethers have become more body shaming parties than friendly gatherings. Lets get beyond weights and color. You dont know what battle a person is going through OR someone else might be prioritising an ailing mother over his/her gym. Or simply, THEY DONT CARE!

Stop being an agony aunt when they dont need one. Or Stop being a dietician and giving tips when the whole world knows how to search them on internet. The cream you used to make yourselves fair might be the last thing someone wants to know! Let alone your secret of straight hair.

Body shaming is done in both men and women. But men has a very witty way of self-deprecation and playing it cool. While women find it difficult to handle. People use MEANEST synonyms to laugh as if its a common joke.

Closing the loop from where I started. God has made us all different for a purpose. We compliment each other and all are uniquely beautiful. Encourage and Elevate each other. Imperfections are human and what you can do, might not be possible for someone else, let alone..it might not be in the agenda of them. So learn to be nice.

I love one question which Gautam Buddha has given us to use when in doubt.

" If you propose to speak, always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind?".

This blog topic was a request from a dear friend. So what's your story??

#loveyourself #Nobodyshaming #unique #stopbullying #allsizes #color

Avani's dose of the day!! New house

We recently shifted in a new house, in a new locality. It was a year long journey with alot of disruption in all our lives. Then finally when it was time to wrap up from our old place, it was a very emotional moment for me. My 13 years of journey in the house was going to end. Journey where I have spent the best years of my life. Both my lovely kids were born there, celebrated every single ocassion and festivals with my friends right from Lohri to Onam, laughed and cried with family and friends. Decorated each wall and corner with so much love and affection. The photoframes on the wall, still narrate thousand of stories.

It was hard for me to let go of the little shoes I had bought when I was expecting my first baby. And then that little tulsi plant in the balcony made me recall the whole journey from a newly wed to the lady of the house. And ofcourse as all journeys are, it was full of ups and downs.

So with this emotional upheaval going on in my mind, few tears rolled down my cheeks.

Avani looks at me and chokes a little.Hugs me.

Avani : Mom, why are you crying? Are you also missing Riviera as much as I do?

Mummy: Ofcourse darling. I have spent 13 years of my life here. I will definitely miss it very much.

Avani: Not as much as I do!

Mummy: Why not?

Avani: Because you have only spent part of your life here. But, I. I was born here and have spent all my life here. So I will miss it more than you do.

Yes, I agree. Its logical. Though 13 is more than 8 (Avani's age). She has spent all her life there. And I have only spent part of it.

#KidsTheseDays #AvanisDoseOfTheDay #wittyKids #ChangeIsDisruptive #MissMyHome #Memories

Bangalore Blooming

My first memory of coming to Bangalore back in 2004 was passing by HAL Road with trees arching on both the sides for a 2-3 km stretch. I fell in love with the beautiful weather and greenery around. Coming from a small town and being a nature lover, I always take few minutes everyday to admire the nature's beauty around me.

And the nature conspires to fulfil this wish of mine everyday. I have frequent winged visitors in my balcony, my Adobe is surrounded by colorful flowers all thanks to the gardening team in my society. Sometimes a squirrel on the nearby tree where my car is stuck in traffic jam and sometimes beautiful clouds narrating a novel story. Nature finds it's way to reach us.

One more time this weekend, I was awestruck by the beauty of those beautiful pink flowers carpeting the whole road on my way to Kundanhalli. Trees on both the sides of the road are in full bloom and not only that the flowers have carpeted the whole road too.

Not sure what is the name of the flowers but I call it Bangalore's Cherry Blossoms!! Next time someone says Bangalore is no more beautiful, take them to the many roads that are blooming with these flowers. I am sure, they will have to change their perception.

Lockdown - SCIFI movie

I feel like I am into a SCIFI movie. The fear, the lockdown, the conspiracy and helplessness are all so real! I could see how like any movie, it started with a rosy day in office discussing how people in some remote part of the world are fighting with a dangerous epidemic. Then being concerned about people whom I know and work with. Then slowly the black clouds spreading to India.

And I am immediately put into charge to do something about it. Face masks, sanitizer, home made food, immunity developing home remedies, etc etc to make sure everyone is safe. The speeches, the media, the messages all seem to be running in the background like how in movie it hovers around the characters. I feel so helpless that I am still not able to find some solution to it! And why the plot is still not seeing the deep bottom and why are we not bouncing back to the thrilling recovery from the epidemic??

I just want to get up and take a breath of relief that it was just a dream!! I just want the movie to stop and get back to the normal day to day life! I hope I am right...or atleast like any SCIFI movie, the recovery is now just a click away!!!

#Covid-19 #Lockdown #Helpless #scifi #AlwaysAMotherFirst #StayHome #StayPositive #WeWillComeOutOfThis